Tishah B'Av Tikum
By Rebbetzin Brachah Rivkah Belk
Shalom, Shalom Everyone,
This week we are coming to Tishah B'Av - we need to check our middot to see if we can improve our relationships.
Even with those who may not be so kind to us.
The 2nd Temple was destroyed because we were not kind to each other.
Isn't that why we are trying to improve our middot?
Do we have a kind word for everyone we meet?
Do we try to help where we can?
Do we get frustrated and angry with our circumstances?
We need to take Tishah B'Av to heart this year.
Tishah B'Av Tikum
Tishah B'Av starts at sundown Saturday July 28th (5772) Lamenting the destruction of the Temple.
Over these do I weep; my eye continuously runs with water because a comforter to restore my soul is far from me. My children have become forlorn, because the enemy has prevailed. Eichah (Lamentations) 1.16
עַל־אֵלֶּה ׀ אֲנִי בוֹכִיָּה עֵינִי ׀ עֵינִי יֹרְדָה מַּיִם כִּי־רָחַק מִמֶּנִּי מְנַחֵם מֵשִׁיב נַפְשִׁי הָיוּ בָנַי שׁוֹמֵמִים כִּי גָבַר אוֹיֵב: יז
Al eleh ani bochiya; eini, eini yordah mayim Ki rachok mimeni menachem, meishiv nafshi
Because of all these things I'm crying; my eye, my eye is dripping with water Because the comforter who can restore my soul is far from me.
At that time the Holy One, Blessed be He, Wept and Said, Woe is Me! What have I done? I caused My Shechinah to dwell below on earth for the sake of Israel; but now that they have sinned, I have returned to My former habitation. Heaven forfend that I become a laughter to the nations and a byword to human beings! At that time Metatron came, fell upon his face, and spake before the Holy One, Blessed be He: Sovereign of the Universe, let me weep, but do Thou not weep. He replied to him, If thou lettest Me not weep now, I will repair to a place which thou hast not permission to enter, and will weep there, as it is said, But if ye will not hear it, My soul shall weep in secret for pride, (Jer. XIII, 17). Midrash Rabbah Lamentations Page 42.
How so [eicha in Hebrew] am I able to bear your contentiousness, your burdens and your quarrels... Devarim (Deuteronomy 1:12)
The gravest sin, which led to Jerusalem's destruction, is strife within Israel, contentiousness, quarrelsomeness, the sin defined by our Sages as sinat hinam, causeless hatred. To this end, the prophet Isaiah calls out, Comfort you, comfort you, My people, speak upon the heart-Jerusalem and call out unto her; her period [of exile] has been completed, her iniquity has been forgiven, Yshayahu (Isaiah 40:1,2).
Regarding Tishah B'Av many classic commentators have asserted that since the destruction resulted from sin'as chinam - baseless hatred -- hatred without cause, then the ultimate redemption will be brought about by love without cause. As one of the great Chassidic masters taught, G-d Loves the greatest sinner more than we love the greatest tzaddik. What we must do is to tolerate, help and love one another, helping the needy, fostering unity, and drawing the distant closer to Torah and service of G-d. (Artscroll Email)
As we try to improve our middot, let us keep these thoughts in mind.
Blessings, Beauty and Peace